Dear 10 Year Old Me,
As we come to the beginning of a new year, I want to first congratulate you for making it this far. You have done a damn good job. I am really proud of how you stuck to all those gut feelings you had over the past few years. Your curiosity of the big world out there serves you well in your 20s, 30s and 40s. You get to see so many places, you wouldn't believe! You even live in other countries. Handling with grace at all ages, you never stress when everyone was putting the pressure on you to figure out what you wanted in life. Everything you knew from the start, you stay true to you all the way through. Not many people figure that out in their adulthood, but you knew al along. It's quite impressive and as a result your life is really amazing.
I am still enjoying all the adventures I have now days, just as I did when I was 10. There will be some ups and downs through the years, but you are prepared. I won't spoil the excitement for you, but if I were to give you one word of advice that will help, it would be this: The loneliness and isolation you have always felt, you will continue to experience your entire life. (Or at least to this point.) Know it isn't because people don't like you. In fact you are well liked. It is because you are different. You see and feel things differently than others. You will experience life in a way which isn't conventional to social standards. This is what makes you feel alone. Don't worry through these times. Spend these moments of loneliness to educate yourself and grow. You will have a few amazing friends who help you nurture the gift you have.
Most importantly, continue to always follow your instinct. Never has it mislead you and because of that you live a life of no regrets.
I love you very much.
Your 42 Year Old Me
Never have I felt that needed someone in my life to feel like I was whole, however, there has always seemed to be someone there. It wasn't until the past couple years where I spent a lot of time with myself and started to discover the power within myself which made me feel rooted. While I am still working on the total connection between mind and body to feel whole, I can attest to the empowerment and wholeness I am feeling for finding my own roots I have grown and nurtured myself.
I started reading work from Rupi Kaur a couple years ago and if you have never read any of her work, I would highly recommend reading her poetry - Milk and Honey, The Sun and her flowers
effort and time in our health, yet turn around and not be able to comprehend how illness and injury has become a regular part of daily life?
It doesn't take much to improve your quality of life. You don't need a gym membership or money to make healthy choices and put into action which can positively affect your life for years to come. All it really takes is a little bit of personal responsibility.
Check out Kimberly's TEDxNUV Talk about how simple it is to invest in your health and why it is so important.
“If you worked more on your lower abs, then your stomach would be perfect.” I was told after someone saw this photo.
PERFECT... Well, I am Perfectly comfortable with my body. I am perfectly happy with the years and years of hard work and maintenance I have put into it. I am perfectly comfortable to walk across a beach in a bikini and run down a street in a sports bra. My body is absolutely perfect to ME and that’s what matters. I don’t put in effort to be “perfect” in someone else’s eye. I don’t need anyone else telling what I need to do to make my body “perfect”.
I am perfectly happy in my own skin. I know I have thick enough skin to blow off comments like this, but it still bothers me. It bothers me because of how often comments like this are made to young women by men, media, peers and even parents which lead them to spending a lifetime seeking a false sense of perfection.
While I have been complimented for my fitness over the years, I have been criticized almost just as much. I write this not for validation. I don't need it. I am someone who loves giving compliments to those who deserve it, to give an honest opinion when asked and to speak up when I feel something is wrong. I write this because if one person thinks twice about being more mindful about what they are saying and the affect they have, if one person rethinks what 'perfect' means to oneself and not society, the world could become a little better.
Photo Credit to the Talented Rohan Tupule
When I step on board to push or promote a product or message, it is always because I believe in it 100%. I have always been that way. Integrity is something my father taught me at a young age. So when I say this video is something you MUST watch...I mean it. Not because I have been asked to, but because I have sat and watched it over and over, listening and hanging on to every word said in this manifesto. I get it.
After having the priviledge of getting a sneak peak at the book...I bought 5. What can I say, it's powerful.
Just watch, it's worth it, you will see...
In the middle of writing this, I had to pause to deal with a little bit of work, which prompted me to write this post on Facebook, which I feel I should share with you because it relates to this very topic...
Amazing how I speak up for women's sports here, I end up getting an endless number of men say to me comments like "Chill. Don't take it so seriously. It's no big deal. Don't be a leader, let someone else do it. It is not worth stressing yourself. No one pays that much attention."
Let me tell you - it is worth it. It is a big deal. Someone needs to. You are saying all the wrong things to a girl who lived through the era of Title 9 and having to listen to loads of American men say the same bullshit things to women who pushed for the same thing there a couple decades ago.
On the backside - I love and appreciate the women who have given their support and have backed me on this.
Sports at all levels is an essential part to helping women and men, girls and boys develop physical skills, discipline, learning how to communicate and work together, to help one another and build a community together.
Sports for women and men are important at all ages. When children see their mothers and fathers playing and doing something they loved as a kid, it leaves an ever-lasting impact.
You will not silence me on this matter.
Life is what happens when you're busy making other plans. ~John Lennon
A new day, a new year. Why do we treat the two differently? Time is time. Carpe diem. Don't wait for tomorrow. I make no resolutions because I feel that if I want to start something new, I shouldn't have to wait for a new year to come.